Hi everyone. Valentine’s Day is coming up this week,
which means many of us are thinking about love, relationships, and, for some of
us, culturally-responsive organizational capacity building strategies. The
nonprofit sector is full of amazing individuals. But we all tend to work really
hard and focus on others, so love and relationships are often put on the back
burner, along with exercise and, for some of us, personal hygiene. If this area
is relevant to you, however, make time to focus on it as part of your overall
well-being. Here are some #NonprofitDatingTips that may be helpful if you are
looking for love (If you’re not, the final season of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt
is now on Netfllix):
Now, some of you may be asking, “Vu, what exactly do you know about dating?” To which I would reply that after being married for a decade, I have no understanding whatsoever of the modern dating scene. However, I do know a lot about nonprofit work, and I am sure dating and nonprofit are very similar:
Recently, I discovered that a couple of my ED friends write romance novels on the side. It made me realize that we have so few books set in the nonprofit sector, and certainly romance is no exception. Our sector, with all its volatility and interesting characters, would make an excellent setting for steamy tales. Here are excerpts from a few potential stories. Thanks to the EDs who came to last week’s EDHH-Seattle meeting for all the great ideas, some of which we could not put down in print.
Dozens of people have asked me to address dating within the nonprofit sector, and by dozens of people, I mean one drunk single person at a fundraising gala. This is not a topic that we talk much about, but it is important, because of self-care and blah blah, so I asked the brilliant and attractive people in the NWB Facebook community to help create a list of rules. Here is the list below. Please keep in mind that this is not a comprehensive list. Rules may be changed, and new rules may be added.
10 Rules for Dating in the Nonprofit Sector
Rule 1, the Cardinal Rule of Dating in the Nonprofit Sector: Do not date other people from the nonprofit sector*. Yes, proximity is powerful, especially when so many of us work ridiculous hours and see each other all the time. But resist the temptations. First, because we deserve a decent car and house and occasional access to organic blueberries, and the chances for those things greatly decrease if we only stick with each other. But more importantly, our work depends on the rest of society understanding and appreciating the role that nonprofit plays, so we have to marry outward. It’s not gold digging, it’s thinking of the children.Continue reading “10 rules for dating in the nonprofit sector”